Talking To Kids About Sex
Most parents are uncomfortable thinking about the word “sex” in relation to their children. But sexual health is just part of being a healthy human being. We all want our children to grow into adults who find pleasure in their sexuality and are responsible in their sexual lives. Unfortunately, we live in a very sexualized culture, and protecting our kids from outside influences is almost impossible. Our job as parents is to correct misinformation, help our kids maintain positive feelings about their bodies, and process any feelings that come up for them when they get messages about sex that are unhealthy. With a little thought, we can help our children develop a positive view of sex and of their own bodies, learn what behaviors are socially appropriate, and learn respect for the bodies of others.
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Talking to Kids About Sex & Gender: An age by age guide
An age by age guide with tips to make it easier to talk to your children about sex.
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