Divorce
Research shows that kids can cope with a divorce and come out okay. But many children whose parents make the decision to divorce are emotionally wounded in a way that lingers throughout their lives. The good news is that we know how to avoid these outcomes, because we know what the risk factors are that leave kids scarred. The bad news is that avoiding these risks takes enormous maturity on the part of both parents. Protecting your child should be your highest priority and you can do this by maintaining a strong, loving relationship with your child and acting as partners, to the best of your ability, with your ex.
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Divorce: How to Protect Your Child
Research shows kids can cope with a divorce and come out ok. But often they don't. Here's why, and what you can do to protect your child.
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Parents Considering Divorce
Although the research shows that kids can cope with a divorce and come out ok, there are important risk factors for your kids which are important to consider.
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Best visitation schedule for shared custody?
Finding the "right" visitation schedule will depend on many things, including the age, temperament, and needs of the child.
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Helping Your Child Cope with Your Divorce
How to tell five year old his parents are divorcing (emphasizing that CHILDREN don't get divorced) and support him through his grief, anger and acceptance.
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Divorce: Surviving the Holidays
After a divorce, holidays are hard. But this is a golden opportunity to create new traditions with your child that express your love and your values.
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